Most writers I know aren't social butterflies. Oh, there's some here and there, but most of them admit that what socializing they do pull of is bluff and fake smiles. I often wonder if it is part of our less social nature that makes us desire to be writers? Or maybe you must be of such a social nature to handle the large amounts of solitude that being a productive writer puts you through?
Regardless, one thing I have noticed is that despite not being in high school anymore and our deer-like reaction to crowds, writer's still tend to form cliques. Honestly, I've noticed that about everyone. There's cliques on Twitter, cliques on Facebook, cliques amongst the military wives here in my hometown. I am not sure I really understand why, honestly.
Online most of these people have never (and may never) meet. Less face time should equate more time to expand your social horizons. Being the new kid on Twitter will quickly push that idealism from your head though. Try replying to the post of someone that you follow who is also following you. Replies to replies seem far and few between. I wonder, if one has no intention of replying to those that speak to them, what is the point of having an account on Facebook or Twitter (this goes for celebrities too; especially on Twitter).
Now maybe all of these happen to catch my attention because I have never been the type to fall into cliques? Maybe it's because I've spent a majority of my life watching people I know avidly talk about their fun nights and get togethers, but I'm never a part of that? I know I'm not the most social person in the world, I can easily go for days ghosting on the public sites, but never speaking a word. It's not that I have nothing to say, it's just that I'm aware that people don't generally and honestly care.
I will admit that when I was gone for two days, I did have a couple of great ladies show enthusiasm for my return (*Waves at Kimmy and Angelina*). And this isn't a post requesting sympathy, by all means, I don't desire it. I'm just merely amused by the fact that, despite our ages, people still tend to cluster together to the exclusion of everyone else. They don't do it out of maliciousness (or at least I hope not). They do it because they are so caught up in their lives, and the lives of their 'besties' that they don't take the time to get to know anyone else. They have their select few, usually from two to a handful of people, that is their center. You'd think the military people here would be more open. After all, our lives revolve around the 'Here today, gone tomorrow' principle.
So what about you guys? Writer's, readers, mothers, husbands; do you have a clique? Or do you find your social interactions limited to your immediate family and the occasional texting spree? ~ D. F. Krieger